Things That Make Moderation Easier: Clear Rules and Guidelines

One of the most difficult parts about moderation is the ability to justify. If you only allow yourself to have ‘a few’ drinks during the week, how many does that mean? If you only allow yourself to feel ‘tipsy’ and not ‘drunk’ where is the limit? Are you only drinking when you go out? HowContinue reading “Things That Make Moderation Easier: Clear Rules and Guidelines”

Things That Make Moderation Difficult: Comparing Yourself to Others

Marking progress by comparing yourself to someone else is one of the worst actions you can take. And it is an action. My sense of justice and fairness can make it difficult to drink less than the people around me. If I already drank yesterday, I can’t just have a few drinks with my friendContinue reading “Things That Make Moderation Difficult: Comparing Yourself to Others”

Things That Make Moderation Difficult: Focusing on What You Don’t Want Instead of What You Do

When thinking about moderation, many people assume you’re “cutting out”. This is, in part, true. You’re limiting how much you drink. To successfully moderate (without feeling depressed over time), simply deleting drinks from your week is probably not going to work long-term. If you remove something unhealthy, it’s best to replace it with something healthy.Continue reading “Things That Make Moderation Difficult: Focusing on What You Don’t Want Instead of What You Do”

Things That Make Moderation Difficult: Giving Others Too Much Power

I don’t like it when people say addiction is a problem with distress intolerance. It seems patronizing. Anybody experiencing addiction has to tolerate quite a lot of discomfort just from the addiction itself. If comfort is the main motivator for a drink or drug, we are moving in the wrong direction. While I know ofContinue reading “Things That Make Moderation Difficult: Giving Others Too Much Power”

Things That Make Moderation Difficult: Wanting Everyone to Like You

Moderation is not easy. I spent the first 30 days sober so that I could reset before moderating. When moderating fresh off problem drinking, the cravings can be too intense to override with logic. Some difficulties with moderating seem to persist even after 30 days sober. A common one for me is people pleasing. WantingContinue reading “Things That Make Moderation Difficult: Wanting Everyone to Like You”

Problem Drinking

Problem drinking can take many forms. Regardless of how many drinks you have per week, how drunk you act or how many hours you work/money you make, problem drinking can happen to anyone. You may drink too much because of emotional trauma or life circumstance. You may drink too much because you’re bored. Regardless ofContinue reading “Problem Drinking”

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