I moved in with my significant other over the pandemic. The only problem is that he drinks. I have had to separate my drinking from his, but it’s difficult to moderate when the person you’re living with doesn’t.
We have a system. Because everyone has a system, I hate wording it this way, but plans are crucial. We don’t drink Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday. I still stick to my weekly limit, but since it’s bunched together into just a few days, I’ve found myself drinking more all at once.
Tonight, Thursday, I’m not going to drink. I know that he will and that if I hang around him too much, I’ll want to too. Moderating is much easier when I’m alone or if I’m with someone who only drinks occasionally. This is the first time I’ve had to navigate this situation.
Moderating Addiction 